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Cherish The Moment

2011 February 10
by Helen Mason

Every now and again I get a sinking feeling that life as it is right now will end and never be quite the same again. Now I know that this sounds incredibly pessimistic but let me explain.

When the twins were born life suddenly became a whole lot harder, don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t have had it any other way (well possibly the addition of a cleaner or a nanny). There were some very fraught times, weekends were chaos and school holidays seemed very long.

We were constantly reassuring ourselves that life would get easier, and sometimes it was really tough in fact at one stage I was convinced I had narcolepsy as I would fall asleep in public places or in the middle of a conversation. Although this only makes me appreciate how much easier life is now and how I would stop the clock if I could.

I worry that our eleven year old daughter Rosie, who still wants to be with us and has no desire to go anywhere by herself, will suddenly become excruciatingly embarrassed to be seen out with us, and would rather chop off a leg than spend a Saturday evening in our company. Or that our nine year old Jack, won’t want to hold my hand on the way from school anymore and have his most favourite time just spending the day at home building Lego in his pyjamas. Then there are our twins, still innocent and vulnerable wanting kissses on the lips in front of all their friends and still feeling like they can leave house dressed as a Power Ranger or a Princess.

I know that I have mentioned before how I feel the need to be in control so how will I go on with teenagers, not knowing every move and exact location. I really wonder if microchips are out of the question and I don’t mean the sort in a cardboard box, oh and the odd urine sample would be good. OK, maybe a bit extreme but come on it’s scary.

My point is I know time moves on and things change, but sometimes we need to take stock of the here and now. Some of our most special memories are those doing simple things. We take a holiday every year to Northumberland and stay in a cottage on the beach. Our days are spent by the sea, flying kites and last year surfing the sand dunes. I wonder how much longer we will get away with such simplicity, and a week eating fish and chips, ice cream and fishing off the harbour wall.

So I decided, not to get so caught up in whats next to just be happy and thankful our children are still wanting to be around us having fun and embracing life.

“Now and then its good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy .” Guillaume Apollinaire

Here are some photos of some of our great times.

Please share some of your quality times or just moments that make you smile, and leave me a comment i’d love to hear from you.

Helen x

17 Responses leave one →
  1. Donna monica permalink
    February 10, 2011

    Ohhhhh what a wonderful wonderful blog Helen, you’ve left me all wistful! I completely agree with you. Do you remember me telling you that although we’d had a good time in centre parcs as we always do, I found the last break there very very different and that’s because the world of hi-tech had crept into the suitcases……..I blame Simon! There was the i phone, the i pad and then Simons lap top “for work”!!!!! I swear I could’ve thrown the lot on the BBQ, because they stopped us from quality time……..the boys would’ve been out in the woods on there bikes until I shouted them in, but instead they were chopping some warriors head off with a magical silver sword, (I felt like doing the same to Simon).
    It’s been in the news recently where a mother banned tv and games consoles etc from the house for 6 months, and I have to say GOOD ON HER! They reconnected with each other and ……….actually sat down and talked? Maybe we should bring back the good old fashioned power cuts LOL,
    I think I am lucky enough to have been reminded of the precious little time that we have in Our children, by having max my late bundle of scrumminess, as I am determined to cherish every second, because it does feel like the blink of an eye and then they are off to high school……….OH GOD, I’ve come out in a sweat just thinking about that, I am in total denial that Cameron will be there in September…….now that’s a whole other blog LOL
    I also love the fact that although Cameron is able to walk to school on his own and does so, he does prefer me to walk with him, (he is a big softy, and I’m glad), and as for Harrison………year 5 and he still OPENLY gives me a big kiss in the playground and shouts “love you”, now that is something money can’t buy.

    • Helen Mason permalink*
      February 10, 2011

      I think it was seeing all the kids at the weekend that really got me thinking. It doesn’t seem two minutes since Rosie and Cameron were laid side by side on changing mats half naked having a kick with no nappies, look at the length of those legs now !

      Thanks for another lovely comment and being such a special friend x

  2. David permalink
    February 10, 2011

    For me, just been called daddy, doesn’t matter who my two monsters are with. I’m daddy :)

    • Helen Mason permalink*
      February 10, 2011

      I absolutely love your comment, very special, your children are very lucky you play such a huge part of their life. You may like a blog I read every day, it’s really thought provoking. http://www.danoah.com/

  3. February 10, 2011

    Another wonderful blog. Reading your stories does make you take a step back and re evaluate your own life, it makes you realise it is right they are growing up fast you don’t always have time to think about things but when you see it written down so beautifully and simple you want to cherish what you say …. I’m watching Jack, Adam and Kate bouncing around now on the trampoline and thought how long will it last like that not a care in the world xxx

    • Helen Mason permalink*
      February 11, 2011

      Ok where do I start, I love to see our children play together and feel very lucky that we are so close, and the kids are growing up in the same way. I also hope you have found happiness and life just keeps getting better.

      Love you lots H x

  4. David permalink
    February 10, 2011

    I bet really you are the one bouncing on the trampoline and the kids are sat off it going “our turn now Mum!” :)

    And Mrs Mason, lovely blog.

    And Katie’s Mum..change your fruit bowl!!!!!!!!!!!!

    :):):)

  5. Donna Wilson permalink
    February 10, 2011

    Helen, you are so right. I worry about this all the time, I seem to spend such alot of time rushing the kids as I have to be somewhere (mainly work!) and that makes me so guilty. So I worry I’m going to miss out on the here and now. I cherish Sunday’s us all watching Tom play football, watching Stuart getting as excited as an England football manager (well maybe not England they don’t do too great!) and Ben trying to look interested. I’m sure in a few years Tom will be saying “Mum, Dad you don’t have to come and watch”)

    High School don’t even get me started on that – it frightens the life out of me.

    Love your blogs x

    • Helen Mason permalink*
      February 11, 2011

      You have got me thinking Donna I don’t do football on a Sunday morning but Jack would love me to go see him play, so this Sunday we’ll be there, I’ll be the one with an eleven year old with a face like a slapped bum, she just loves football LOL x

  6. dad permalink
    February 10, 2011

    dont worry my love it keeps getting better trust
    me

    • Helen Mason permalink*
      February 11, 2011

      Well I don’t know if I believe you ,but maybe if I am blessed with such lovely well behaved Grandchildren as I hear you have it may just be possible. LOL xx

  7. Rhona permalink
    February 11, 2011

    I really think you should write a book, the stories are so lovely.xx

    • Helen Mason permalink*
      February 11, 2011

      Hi Rhona,

      Mum said you were not well, hope you feel better and thank you for taking the time to read my ramblings. xx

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